Christmas.
It is my absolute favorite holiday. I love the decorations, the music, the traditions, and just the overall feel of merriment. This year, our lives look a little different for the holidays. We have an extra person as a part of our family to enjoy the festivities. I'm excited to share this time with her, but it reminds me that she has other family that will not get to share this time with her. I decided awhile ago I was going to give both of her birth families a gift. It wasn't much, but for both birth parents, I made one of those Shutterfly photo books with all kinds of pictures of baby girl. Monthly pictures, pictures of them with her, pictures of baby girl with Ben (without his face showing) and Bug, pictures of her in various "fashionista" outfits, pictures of her using various toys and baby apparatuses, etc. This past week, I gave them to both parents. I get two responses when I tell people that I did this: Response #1: Wow that is SO nice of you. I don't know that I could do something like that. Response #2: Aren't you afraid this will give them motivation to work harder to get her back? Here is my response:
I don't tell this story to boast about what I did. Instead, I tell it to give a tangible example of the complexity of our situation. It would be FAR easier for me to clutch those photos close to my heart and keep them from the birth parents. After all, those are our memories with her and there are reasons she isn't in their care at the moment. However, they are her parents. And they are people, God's creation, sinners - just. like. me. We all share this darling child, in a way, and will forever no matter where she lives the rest of her life. There are plenty of times I question whether I made the right decision as a parent. This isn't one of them. From our family to yours, Merry Christmas xo
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Susie
12/15/2019 09:13:09 pm
Super proud of you lady! God in you and your hubby! Beautiful! Praying for you all again now...!
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